Zeva Bellel

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Cultivating Self-Trust

Camille I were in the middle of our session when she causally said, "When something feels off in my body, I now know that it's because I'm believing something that just isn't true."

 

We looked at each other and laughed. Because Camille and her body weren’t always humming to the same tune. 

 

Earlier on in our coaching, her body was like a racehorse designed for efficiency, duty and productivity.

 

It had the potential to sense and intuit, to switch lanes and directions when it felt the need, but its blinders were so thick and tight that it was on a toxic auto-pilot track headed for imminent burnout. 

 

I love a good visual metaphor. So what could the blinders represent in this story you think?


What prevents a woman from being able to trust the signals that her body sends her about what feels good or bad?


So many of my clients come to me because they’re trying to get to a place that feels better for them professionally, but they’re terrified by what they might discover in themselves with their blinders off. 


Why? Because they've been taught to believe that those blinders provide control and security. 


Control and security over what? 


Our careers? 


Our social status? 


Our families? 


All of those make sense.


But when you realize that it’s impossible to control anything outside of ourselves 100%, we get to something a bit more complex. 


As women in a patriarcal society, we’ve been brilliantly taught to mistrust what happens inside of us. We’ve been taught to mistrust:
 

  • Our emotions. 

  • Our resilience.

  • Our power.

  • Our opinions. 

  • Our needs. 


How did we get to a place where we are so distrusting of ourselves? 


How did we get to a place where we’re better at controlling and numbing our needs and desires than becoming curious about what they might be telling us?


And, more importantly, how can we build a bridge into ourselves, into our self trust that doesn’t also freak us out and halt us in our tracks?

That goal, the one above, is what my clients and I strive to achieve in our journey together. 


To get them to a place, like Camille, where they can gradually loosen the blinders, see what they're falsely protecting us from, and learn to listen to and trust the power and potential deep within in order to guide them forward. 


PS.If you want to learn how to build self trust and self knowing so you can feel your way to your next career move, book a call with me here.